“I have heard of a married couple, who, though they were both naturally of a hot and hasty temper, yet lived very comfortably in that relation by observing an agreement made between themselves, “Never to be both angry together.” This is an excellent law of meekness which, if faithfully lived up to, would prevent many of those breaches among relations which occasion so much guilt and grief and are seldom healed without a scar. It was part of the good advice given by a pious and ingenious father to his children newly entered into marriage;

Doth one speak fire? t’other with water come;
Is one provoked? be t’other soft or dumb.

And thus one wise, both happy. But where wrath and anger are indulged, all relations are embittered, those that should be helps become as thorns in our eyes, and goads in our sides. “Two indeed are better than one,” and yet it is better to dwell alone in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry relation “who is like a continual dropping in a very rainy day” (Proverbs 21:19, 27:15). Some of the Hebrew critics have noted that if you take away “the fear of the Lord: from “husband and wife,” there remains but “fire” and “fire.” It is so in other relations. ” ~ Matthew Henry, The Quest for Meekness and Quietness of Spirit